August 16, 2020

If you are an adult who is not interested in getting married or having kids or owning a home in the suburbs or chasing the highest-paying job or pursuing any number of other goals that may be expected of you in your culture, you are up against some challenges. You will...

July 26, 2020

We are supposed to be the vulnerable ones, those of us who are living alone. Under stay-at-home orders during the pandemic, our assumed loneliness has presumably deepened. “Ask Polly” advice columnist Heather Havrilesky, who has written so many thoughtful and multiface...

May 24, 2020

Pity the single mothers. With no spouse in the house to help out with the chores and the childcare, they must be far more sleep deprived than married mothers. And getting a chance to just kick back and watch some TV? That’s probably another indulgence reserved mostly f...

March 29, 2020

“During the past half century, our species has embarked on a remarkable social experiment. For the first time in human history, great numbers of people – at all ages, in all places, of every political persuasion – have begun settling down as singletons.”

That’s wha...

February 23, 2020

Most people know better than to ask why I am single, as if there is something wrong with that. There is, though, a different question that people wonder about when they learn that I am single — what do I do with my time?

I can do better than to tell you just about me. T...

July 28, 2019

The bias against single people that I call “singlism” is pervasive. The stereotyping, stigmatizing, and marginalizing of single people, and the discrimination against them, shows up in the workplace, the marketplace, the classroom, and the boardroom; in politics, the m...

July 26, 2019

I read 7 engaging memoirs by single women. One of them was a masterpiece — an unapologetic embrace of single life that was equal to the moment of what it means to be single in the 21st century.

I’m a social scientist and for two decades, I have been conducting and inhal...

July 17, 2019

“With little cultural celebration or even recognition, friendships have emerged as the essential twenty-first-century relationship. They are, as Liz Spencer and Ray Pahl said in the subtitle of their book, Rethinking Friendship, our Hidden Solidarities Today.”


July 11, 2019

Yes, I would love to know where all the lifelong single people are! Until now, though, I have never seen such a list. Often, if an article is going to tell you where the single people are, it is one of those “10 Best Cities for Singles” sort of thing, with information...

July 7, 2019

When you think about people who have achieved middle class status (or higher), maybe what you envision are married people with children. Numerically, though, marriage has been waning for decades. Just about every new Census report shows that proportionately fewer adult...

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* Quotes are from real interviews conducted for the book, pseudo images and names are used to protect interviewees' anonymity. 

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